So Ken and I are working on guest lists and trying to get a database set up. In case anyone out there reading this is planning a wedding, theknot.com is wonderful! They have a guest list manager that we are busily entering all our names, addresses, etc. into for a database that will take care of everything from invitations to the showers, parties and wedding, to tracking thank you notes and rsvps. It is a very cool tool! Thank God for modern technology.
In the meantime, the guest list seems to be an evergrowing monster. We started with a big "fantasy wedding" list, and then a smaller "weddings cost money" list. We decided to go with the latter of the two, pulling a few over from the first because, well, because we wanted to. As the last couple of weeks have passed,though, more and more have snuck over, and we are now sending out nearly 200 invitations! OUT OF CONTROL!
I know that not all 200 people will come. So I am wondering why I am inviting people that I KNOW will not be there? I am being told that it is because if nothing else, it lets people in your life know that they are important and you want to share this special day with them -- attending or not. So with that said, I am going to send out all my invites, all 200 of them. And ya know what? If all 200 people come, then I am going to have one hell of a party and spend that very special day with a lot of very special people! If they do not all come, then I am going to know in my heart that they are aware that they are important to Ken and myself in some way and feel good about that.
PS -- I am open to all input on seating arrangements -- open plan or assigned seating???
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My personal vote is that we take one pass at the seating assignments and see how hard it really is. Either that, or draw numbers out of a hat. Now that could be fun!
I totally forgot about theknot.com. I used that site quite a bit for my own wedding (I am so sorry, I have repressed so much of all that planning).
Think about weddings you've attended... was there assigned seating? Did you like it or not? We didn't go with assigned seating because I was worried about hurting feelings with the way we did it. Besides, we had so many "groups" - old friends, new friends, coworkers, etc. - many ended up at the tables I'd anticipated they would anyway.
Hey, put me with all the hot single gals so I can try my favorite line for the Wedding Crashers...."Some people say we only use 10 percent of our brains, I think we only use 10 percent of our hearts."
:=)
I've been to weddings where there is a little of both. Special tables for family members, and tables left unmarked for friends. That way people mix and find their own fit.
We used theknot and liked it
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we didn't use it for RSVP though, too many luddites on our parents lists.
Marisa and I angsted over guests for so long and then it turned out that only a VERY few that weren't in the wedding party and were on our lists made it.
It will be different if most of your people are local or LA. But for us, just most of our non-relative guests couldn't swing the schedule or the travel - or its possible they hate us.
So it does look like a lot of invites, but it pares down quickly.
One thing we eventually did that was fun that I wish we had though of earlier was to blow a couple of invites on home run guests. You know they aren't coming, but wouldn't it be cool if they did - and maybe they know someone in town and want to go anyway.
good luck
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